What I Wish I Knew Before Marriage:
Reflection & Regrets From 100s of Married Muslimah
A Muslimah’s Pre-Marital Journey E-Book
Your heart deserves peace, your marriage deserves preparation. Let’s begin this journey together, one reflection at a time.
From My Heart, to Yours...
When I first thought about writing this ebook, I kept asking myself,
“Why? Why me? Why now?”
And the answer kept coming back, soft but clear:
Because too many of our sisters are walking into marriage blind.
Some marry because everyone else is getting married.
Some marry because of cultural pressure, not readiness.
Some marry for love, but without clarity.
And some… find themselves in marriages that hurt, simply because no one ever told them what to look for, what to avoid, and how to prepare.
I have seen sisters cry silently because their expectations didn’t match reality.
I have seen marriages break not because they lacked love, but because they lacked tools.
I have seen women compromise their deen, their values, their peace because no one guided them before they accept their potential spouse.
And I thought to myself: This doesn’t have to be the story anymore.
That’s why this ebook exists.
It isn’t here to scare you.
It isn’t here to make you overthink.
It is here to give you what many of us wished we had, a guide rooted in Islam, gentle in tone, real in its honesty, and practical in its steps.
I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey, habibty.
I want you to breathe and feel that you don’t have to rush, you don’t have to fear, you don’t have to guess.
I want you to stand before Allah one day, grateful that you prepared well for this amanah called marriage.
This book was written with you in mind.
Every word, every worksheet, every reflection is for you…
The Muslimah who whispers,
“Ya Allah, grant me what is good, make me ready for it, and protect me from what is not.”
Who scroll through wedding pictures and smile for others, but deep down wonder: “When will it be my turn?”
Who want to marry for Allah, but feel lost in between cultural expectations, family pressure, and your own quiet fears.
Because you deserve to walk into marriage with your eyes open, your heart at peace, and Allah at the centre.
What This E-Book Will Give You?
This is not a checklist.
Not a list of “perfect husband traits.”, and definitely not a guide that promises you’ll never struggle. It is a book that holds your hand gently and says “Let’s…
Discover who you are before you become someone’s wife.
Uncover your values, your needs, your triggers, your strengths.
Learn what Islam really teaches us about marriage, beyond cultural noise.
Prepare your heart to recognise red flags and embrace what is truly good.
Create your personal “marriage map”, so you don’t lose yourself in the process.
This isn’t just knowledge. It’s reflection, journaling, and worksheets.
It’s you, taking the time to look in the mirror and say, “I am ready.”
The Journey You’ll Take Inside...
Chapter 1:
The Self You Bring Into Marriage
Understanding who you are, your values, habits, triggers, and vision.
Chapter 2:
Understanding Marriage in Islam
A reminder that marriage is worship, amanah, and mercy, not a fairytale.
Chapter 3:
Are You Ready For Marriage?
Discover If you're ready mentally, physically, spiritually, financially.
Chapter 4:
What to Look for in a Husband
Deen, character, compatibility, maturity, family ties, and red flags.
Chapter 5:
Your Non-Negotiables & Dealbreakers
How to know your needs, wants, and boundaries, and use them wisely.
Chapter 6:
Mistakes in Vetting Period
The pitfalls to avoid from rushing to overthinking.
Chapter 7:
Conflict Preparedness
Learning tools of communication, respect, and repair before you need them.
Chapter 8:
The First 6 Months After Nikkah
The realities no one talks about, from socks on the floor to love that deepens with patience.
Each chapter is not just reading, but doing.
With worksheets, reflection prompts, and “check yourself” moments, you won’t just learn…
You’ll transform biithnillah.
Why This Matters?
Because too often, we are taught how to cook, how to host, how to plan a wedding, but not how to prepare our hearts and minds for the actual marriage.
And yet, this is one of the biggest decisions of your life.
It shapes your dunya and your akhirah.
Wouldn’t you want to walk into it with clarity, with faith, with wisdom?
This e-book is for you...
Whispers, “I want to be ready before I say yes.”
Fears making the wrong choice.
Feels cultural pressure but wants to follow deen.
Wants a marriage rooted in love, respect, and worship.
And even for the married woman who wants to reassess, heal, and strengthen what she already has.
By the end of this journey, you will…
Know yourself deeply before you say yes.
Be clear on what matters most in a husband.
Recognise red flags without doubting yourself.
Prepare for the realities of marriage with peace.
Feel calm, confident, and connected to Allah in your decision.
If you’ve been wondering…
“What if I choose the wrong man?”
“How do I know if I’m ready?”
“How do I balance deen and dunya in marriage?”
This book is here to tell you:
You don’t need to figure it out alone.
With love, with gentleness, and with reminders
from Qur’an and Sunnah, you will find your way.
READY TO START BUILDING YOUR DREAM MARRIAGE?
And if your heart is saying yes, then this is for you…
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STILL NOT SURE?
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this only for sisters who are about to get married?
No. It is for every Muslimah, whether you are considering marriage soon, in the distant future, or even already married and wanting to reflect.
Will this guarantee I’ll find the perfect husband?
No one can promise that, only Allah writes qadr. This ebook simply equips you with wisdom, clarity, and tools to be more aware of yourself and all the things you need and want in marriage, and to make decisions that align with your deen and values.
Is this rooted in Islam?
Yes, every section is grounded in Qur’an, Sunnah, and Islamic principles while written with gentleness and love.
Do I need to finish it in one go?
Not at all, you can take it slowly, chapter by chapter, reflection by reflection. It’s designed to be self-paced, like a journey.
Why now?
Because waiting until after marriage is too late. The best time to prepare is before you say yes.
Is my purchase refundable?
Since this is a digital product delivered instantly, all sales are final and non-refundable.
Can I buy this ebook as a gift for someone I love?
Absolutely! You can purchase it with your email, then forward the download link to her.
A thoughtful gift for a sister, daughter, or friend preparing for marriage.
P.S. One ebook is only for one person's use
I’m a man, can I buy this ebook for my future wife?
Yes, of course. You can buy it as a gift for your fiancée, wife, or sister. It’s written for Muslim women, but you are most welcome to gift it.
How will I receive the ebook after purchase?
Once your payment is complete, you’ll receive an instant download link via email. You can start reading right away, in shaa Allah.
What format is the ebook in?
The ebook is delivered as a PDF, easy to read on your phone, laptop, or tablet. You can also print it if you prefer reading on paper.
The ebook made me emotional, I had to stop a few times and really take in what it was saying. The exercises really force you to reflect, which makes all the advice very practical. This ebook is exactly what every sister needs because it goes through everything you can possibly think of. As always Umm Dawud has a way with words. I have been enrolled in her classes and programs for over 2 years, the lessons she teaches are so important as a Muslim woman living in the west. Every sister needs this. BarakAllah feeki Umm Dawud for all the efforts and time you put into your project
Honestly, every single sister NEEDS this book. Read it, reflect, ponder. A lot of sisters marry the wrong man and later regret it. This goes through it ALL to make sure that you’re not making the wrong decision. It’s easy to decide based on emotions but this is like a big sister talking to you realistically. Allahuma barik , I can’t express how amazing this ebook is💗 May Allah bless Umm Dawud for this extensive book
This is the best gift for any sister looking to get married. Umm Dawud went through such constructive points that we often overlook especially in the exciting phase of looking to get married. I highly highly recommend every sister to read this!
I have been reading the book and it is so good Maa shaa Allah!!! So much self reflection and helpful guides. Love the journaling prompts and love that it is throughout the chapter instead of at the end. Really love the content around finances and the questions to ask yourself about your own relationship with money and your financial expectations, financial independence vs codependence. The piece about how to look out for emotional maturity and compatibility without dating, it's like you read my mind on the how to do that assessment while not interacting with them in situations where their "bad" side can show. May Allah reward you for all that you do!
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